Alone with myself

Everything is fine for you. You are married, you have a child or children, you have a job, work colleagues, and friends. Yet, you are afraid to be alone with yourself. Have you considered why this happens? What scares us? I think there is a significant difference between loneliness and being alone with yourself. Loneliness brings the feeling that you are not needed by anyone, that something is missing in your life, that you have no one to rely on, no one who understands and loves you, and that your life is empty and unfulfilled. Paradoxically, a lonely person is not always physically alone. The heaviest feeling of loneliness can arise even when you are in a relationship. There is a fragile and dangerous line between loving and caring relationships and complete devotion to family, a loving partner, or, worse, work. The most dangerous situation occurs when you give yourself entirely to a person or people you love, losing yourself in the process. In such relationships, you are the giver; you sacrifice your time, energy, and physical, mental, and sometimes material strength for others. Essentially, you live for the benefit of others, and the experiences and problems of those around you become your problems, while their mistakes become your mistakes. Only their victories and achievements are truly theirs, not yours.

I do not want to say that caring for family or loved ones is condemnable. Definitely not! But I want to emphasize that the more we keep something for ourselves, the more we invest in our physical and emotional well-being, the more valuable, interesting, and yes—useful—we become to our fellow human beings. We have more to give, more strength to support, and more strength to love because we grow along with them, achieving our accomplishments and victories.

Here comes another aspect: the need to be alone with oneself. It is like rehabilitation, energy charging, or an emotional, psychological, or physical retreat. No matter what it is—walking in the park, going to the gym, traveling, sitting in the garden with a book, visiting a spa, enjoying a favorite hobby, or participating in a church choir—it serves as a source of energy that reveals your inner strengths and makes you more beautiful, smarter, calmer, and more valuable first in your own eyes and then in the eyes of others.

Traveling alone opens new opportunities